Mom was Wrong

A stuffy nose, coughing every five minutes and a slight headache due to coughing so much are all the symptoms that my poor boyfriend has. Now I thought it had gotten worse because he went to sleep with his hair wet (he washed it last night), since you're "'Not suppose to sleep with your hair wet'" is something that I often heard growing up. I just knew without a shadow of a doubt that you could get sick if you didn't obey the wet hair rule!

Yet according to WebMd's article: Feed a Cold, Starve a Fever? The Truth Behind Mom's Cold and Flu Advice I realized that it wasn't his damp hair that got him sicker...his cold is just running it's course. So I can't go run and blame him for making his self so sick, he was already sick to begin with! I'm assuming the cold is just reaching it's peak and it should lessen as his immune system begins to win the battle! But just between us....I still think that sleeping with wet hair isn't helping your health at all! hehe

So check out the site if you want to see what other myths they expose! Basically in the article they are separating the facts from the myths. Its pretty interesting!

Enjoy the rest of your day and please take care of yourself! I'm already exposed to enough germs at work by people coughing and everything else...then handing me their money! Gross!! (Picture on the left was found here) So please be nice to who ever you are handing your money or credit/debit card to, don't sneeze or cough in your hand then hand the item to the cleric! Whether you're at a restaurant, hotel, motel, shopping mall, gas station, car dealership....just ANYWHERE! Don't do it please because it is so nasty! Please people ......... let's be nice and kind to others.

Lovely March

The day has really gone by in a blur....the first day of the best month in the ENTIRE year...next to December that is...MARCH!! Yes beloved March, so I must write something profound or even great! Well sorry to disappoint you, but I don't have anything.

The day has been filled with sleep, doctor's appointment, studying (more like cramming), exam, eat, and now attempt to study some more. Ewww don't these people know that MY BIRTHDAY (March 11th of course) is coming up soon! I don't want to do anything...nothing at all! Yet I shall because I have to get A's and B's this semester! The life of a college student is never over after one exam.....

Well on a good note, since you asked so nicely I found out that indeed my boyfriend did NOT like my hair! Humm how is that a good thing you may ask, well it just showed me that even though he didn't agree with it, he didn't want to flat out say it, so he choose not to say much about it at all, which in return didn't cause an argument because he said he didn't like it. So a lot of unnecessary talking was avoided. How sweet...I know.

So Not Cute..

Slowing unrolling my hair...I realized that the do was actually kind of cute. (Thats not me in the picture but thats the appearance of my hair in a nut shell Black Hairstyles). My boyfriend walks in the bathroom and says...."That's different." and exits. So that's it...like that's really all he had to say?

Now I know it's no big deal usually when a guy....your guy.... doesn't give you a compliment. But when he knows how much work you put into your hair..washing..semi-blow drying...combing...and the fact that you said this was all new to you! Like you are trying something new out for a change. And he can't even say "Babe..Humm...thats different..curls..I've never seen you with curls before." Even that would have been okay but just "That's different."

I just feel that females put work into how we look and usually how we dress. Even when we don't put in work, we usually look well put together and just cute! Congrats to all my females out there. But I'm just saying...is a compliment that hard to give. Just something nice.....

Sorry just needed to vent real quick..but guys feel free to comment if you have a view on this matter.

Does it Work?

I normally don't speak on relationships so much but it's February...the month of Love!

The interesting thing about relationships is the "what's next" factor. All relationships reach that point... whether both partners are beginning to ask themselves that or merely one. We all want to know.. "Does my relationship have what it takes to turn into a long-term commitment or is this just something to do to pass the time." I've never been one to have a relationship that was "just for fun." I never saw the point in it and I never wanted to just "play relationship" as some people do. (I guess that's why my heart has been broken a few times....I'm hoping the right one has finally come to me) but let me continue.

So when your relationship does reach that point because you do eventually think about the future....questions begin to pop into your head. "Can I deal with how he clips his toes in the bed...Or can I deal with the amount of drool she leaves on the pillow.." Haha the list can just go on. Then deeper questions come into play such as "Do we work well together....will he/she make a good parent...can I live with this person for the rest of my life." In order to help out in this matter, there are hundreds of sites that help people figure out if their current relationship has what it takes to go the mile. I've stumbled onto a webpage 10 Qualities of Great Marriages | hitched: (I know it says marriage but if your serious about your relationship you should eventually want it to go in that direction right; wouldn't you like to check and see if your current relationship posses the top 10 qualities to make it)...

After ready the article some key words stood out to me "Friendship" and "Communication." These qualities are so important to me because once you have a solid friendship with someone, its so easy to talk to them! You feel more comfortable telling them your fears, weakness, and how you truly feel about different situations. I think they go hand in hand myself. Once your relationship has a strong sense of friendship...the communication should come naturally. I mean best friend type of friendship...The kind that you tell everything to!

If you don't feel that my two qualities are that important then check out the site and see which ones you feel are important to you. Or better yet...which 10 qualities does your relationship have.....all or just some....

Final Choice

Well well well....As a divorce is nearly right around the corner, things take a quick and even though its a slight change from the norm...it has everyone turning heads.

I guess after sometime, people either open their eyes and realize what they are about to lose on or they just give it up all together. Life has a way of showing people what it would be like without a person without actually taking them away completely. A sickness that leaves the person bedridden or an accident that leaves the person in a hospital. Why does it take actions such as these for a person to realize that they need to turn things around or they will be all by themselves. Even though I ask the question "Why" I'm still happy that we do have the opportunity to "see" or "experience" life altered if that person where no longer in it. After that we have the opportunity to either change the future for the better or just decided that life is better without that person. I prefer this slight altered lifestyle rather than having the person completely out of my life by the final way...death.

I'm sure that most of you out there would choose the first way because at least you have a option of fixing the situation and making it better.

Stomach Showdown

People can not make decisions for you. Especially when you feel that the choice you are making is one that is best for you. When it comes to relationships, the job, and your career sometimes you just have to take a leap. Just follow your gut feeling because usually it is the right one. Your heart could just be following an impulse so I don't even care to listen to that one at all usually and sometimes your mind is so critical. So in the end just follow how you truly feel deep down inside the feeling; you have at the pit of your stomach. If I would have followed that feeling then I would have a bit more money than I do right now. I should have thought clearly and followed my intuition.

Can't change the past but I can defiantly work on making the future better. I can't let people make life changing decisions for me. If I make a mistake I will live with that, but living with the feeling that I should have done something when I didn't is so much worse. You never want to think of the "Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda."

If it's something that you want, don't let others decide it for you. My friend said it best "Just take in their opinions and advice for just that....opinions and advice...not the final say." Don't let what others say determine what you're going to do with your life, especially when you feel that your life would be for the better in another direction. You have the final say over your life because at the end of the day you have to be able to sleep with your own personal decisions.

Sift Through The Seas

In search of good friends? Most of the time people realize who their
true friends are too late. Due to a fight or some kind of situation, it
seems as though the good ones are the first to get lashed out at. At
times I feel that it is the fault of your own feelings because those
closest to you have the most power to hurt you. They know you in
and out for the most part and know what your buttons are. Yet in
return you know the same things about them. You can read each
other very well and know basically the workings of that person.

Yes you've guessed it, a situation broke out and I myself was about
to lose on some good friendships. But see I realized my mistakes and have apologized to them and they have forgiven me. See all you have to really do is just face your problems dead on and not just try to let them go away by themselves. We were trying that for a while but I think it was more of a getting your mind right. Trying to figure out what you wanted to say and how you wanted to place your views into
words; minimizing the intensity and tone. The problem has been resolved
and things have gotten better. Strong people have strong friends. They help make me better and I in return do the same.

I'm just glad that through the years I`ve
sifted through my own and found out that they are all true. Well there was
that one or two phony ones but at the end of the day I feel blessed
to have the same people in my life that have been there since the
beginning. Its an honor that I feel everyone should have and if you don't
well then I believe you might need to work on your people skills. I'm just
saying....