Work at Trust

             Once trust has been taken out of a relationship it takes a lot of time and hard work to get it back. It doesn't happen over night and it actually takes work from both partners. Though many people feel that the one who caused the distrust (call them A) should do all the work, that is not true.
            See the other person (call them B) must also work to ensure that they are trying to trust the person again. B must not assume things and must stop looking at A under a microscope. B must also stop analyzing everything that A says and does. This may sound like a lot and it is but these things have to be done. Its not going to happen over night, but with time, B will be able to clear their mind of the thoughts and fearful feelings that have suddenly taken over.

            Now A has to do some work as well. They have to be an open book to B. They have to allow B to see their phone or emails when requested and not get upset if B is found sneaking into their personal things. At first this is going to be very hard for A, but they must believe that their actions have caused B to not believe anything they say nor do. If they allow B to see all these things then over time B will feel they have nothing to worry about and will become less suspicious. Yet if B keeps finding more things that make A look bad, then this is going to hinder the growth of trust.

1. So A needs to first decide if they want to be true to B or just end the relationship. 
2. Also B needs to decide if they are willing to work on trusting A or if its not worth it.
3. Finally and most importantly if the relationship is important to A then A must apologize to B and work on showing B daily how much they treasure their relationship. 

        Overall relationships require work and sometimes when bumps in the road happen, more work has to be involved but don't give up if its worth it...just put in more work.