Work at Trust

             Once trust has been taken out of a relationship it takes a lot of time and hard work to get it back. It doesn't happen over night and it actually takes work from both partners. Though many people feel that the one who caused the distrust (call them A) should do all the work, that is not true.
            See the other person (call them B) must also work to ensure that they are trying to trust the person again. B must not assume things and must stop looking at A under a microscope. B must also stop analyzing everything that A says and does. This may sound like a lot and it is but these things have to be done. Its not going to happen over night, but with time, B will be able to clear their mind of the thoughts and fearful feelings that have suddenly taken over.

            Now A has to do some work as well. They have to be an open book to B. They have to allow B to see their phone or emails when requested and not get upset if B is found sneaking into their personal things. At first this is going to be very hard for A, but they must believe that their actions have caused B to not believe anything they say nor do. If they allow B to see all these things then over time B will feel they have nothing to worry about and will become less suspicious. Yet if B keeps finding more things that make A look bad, then this is going to hinder the growth of trust.

1. So A needs to first decide if they want to be true to B or just end the relationship. 
2. Also B needs to decide if they are willing to work on trusting A or if its not worth it.
3. Finally and most importantly if the relationship is important to A then A must apologize to B and work on showing B daily how much they treasure their relationship. 

        Overall relationships require work and sometimes when bumps in the road happen, more work has to be involved but don't give up if its worth it...just put in more work.

Become Stronger

       My life isn't all bad and actually it is quite good as can be. Things have happened that I can't take back nor at this time wish to take back. Its like they say..what doesn't kill you does make you stronger. See all the things that I have been through have simply made me stronger and shown me who people truly are. Yes there has been many tears shed and many prayers have went up; but all in all its all good.

My Strong Leo and I

      My love has been doing a great job and has dramatically improved. Things have been so good and they continue to get better with each passing day. We truly are happy and our love is becoming deeper as it once was...actually deeper. This pain I've felt and still sadly feel has only proven that my love is merely human. He makes mistakes and all I can do is hope that he has learned from his mistakes. I'm praying that he has truly learned and will do things to make sure that never happens again. I can only accept it and move forward with my life. I also pray for strength because every day has it's challenges and the devil tempts me every day.
    Yes I will watch for the signs that all women watch for in their man, but I can't go crazy. I can't continue to drive myself crazy with worry and just fear for it happening again. I can't live like that and I can't let my daughter grow up with her mother acting like that. I want to show her how to trust her man and show him that she trusts him. I want her to be proud of her dad not sad because he caused her mom pain. I don't want her to see that. I've been getting better at checking my feelings and making sure I don't go off like I use to in the past. I guess its all a part of maturing and I'm starting to get to the point were its getting easier when I'm provoked.
   If you can relate then just work though it...if you feel it is worth it. If the person doesn't seem like they care and they are not at all regretful or they're doing the same shyt that they BEEN doing...then yea drop them!

Too Simple to be True

        How do relationships work? I use to think they were so much easier than ppl make them out to be. See once you know someone, you should know the do's n dont's of that person. Not saying your going to get it right every time but you should have a general idea.
       So what happens when you have a person that doesn't do the things to make you happy? What happens when they can't believe that its just THAT simple to please you? What happens when you find out they did those things for someone else...not you. Yet you try to work through it but they still don't do the things for you. They tell you they don't know why, they just can't....
        That's when you constantly are hurt. That's when feelings of being unimportant, not needed, nor cared for creep in. Trying to work past them alone is hard especially when the answer is so close. Your not asking for the stars and the moon but they make it seem like you're asking so much from them. They argue with you just to make you feel you're asking for too much...yet your heart n soul says you're not.
       See people are so focused on material things that they can't see that life is more than that. That I'm more than that. That a text means so much more...it means you took time out of your day..for me. TIME TIME TIME TIME TIME! It's so precious and people don't understand that. Showing me you care by taking the time out for me means the world to me, but like I mentioned its too simple....people believe things should be harder than that.
     So I still believe relationships can be so much easier...people just make them extent difficult.

Something you won't or can't do...someone else will.

Happy

       Woke up feeling great! Miss. L laying next to me and she looks so cute! She is just growing like crazy and already she thinks she is grown; telling me no and walking away from me.
       I'm enjoying being a mommy!

Insight in me

Your dominant sense is SIGHT - Your dominant sense - soFeminine.co.uk: "emotional: you're quick to spot and feel other people's�emotions, and you're good at telling what people are thinking.�You feel their joy or pain easily and it affects you."

This is so me!! I can feel when people are upset and it DOES really bother me. Its like their emotions become mine...

Work n Love

Those two words should go together...Love and Work because they just do. 

       The love I have for my daughter makes me work hard to provide n care for her. The love I have for her pushes me to work with her, to ensure that she learns right from wrong. I want to help her but I also know she needs to do things on her own. I am so in love with my little girl! Seeing her brings me great joy. Don't get me wrong, at times I'm frustrated with her; even angry but I still love her.

LaShai and I

       The love I share for her father is a different t kind of love yet it still requires work as well. Daily work. Sometimes to save from having a pity argument I hold my tongue and don't speak. Everything shouldn't be about winning or losing, in a relationship it should be about what's best. Now there are moments when I MUST speak up for my own sanity! Lol

         See if you don't want to work at the love you have then I feel bad for your partner. I've been there...doing all the work and feeling so alone. It is really not a good feeling at all. Some days I feel like I'm back at square one and doing everything alone, but I know that is truly not the case. Yet is seems that way at times. Things have been improving between my daughter's father and I; hopefully they will continue to improve. I know things won't go back to before I found out because a piece of me that truly loved him died that day, but I think it can be better than what it is now. I actually believe that this can only make us stronger..well make me stronger. Only time will tell and with much prayer my feelings towards him will be more positive than their current negative.

I'll keep ya updated on my progress! :)

They said YES

OMG!! WE GOT THE APARTMENT!!

      We shall be moving on to good ole' Jacksonville in July!! We have been searching for an apartment complex who would allow us to move in without jobs...it has been so hard! We have been to over 30 complexes in Jacksonville but none would allow us to move in without having some kind of income coming in first. I'm not upset because it makes sense..people want to make sure they are going to get paid.
      But we found this wonderful complex who is going to let us pay 5 months rent up front and we can move on in. Now we do plan on getting jobs once we are there, but every other place wanted us to have jobs already and that wasn't happening any time soon. Now I am all smiles and happy.

On to Jacksonville we go...at the end of July of course..but at-least we have an apartment now!! :)

Moving Forward...

        Sometimes life just gets hard but you gotta keep moving forward. Heart-break and torn but still moving on with life. Yes I want the lovely family photo and the good life but only time will tell.
       My daughter is now walking and we are all moving. Yes future hubby, wonderful daughter, n I shall be leaving Tally! So yes my life is about to change yet again but I'm ready. My mind is more open yet my heart is more closed but everything has it's gives n takes.....right?