So Not Cute..

Slowing unrolling my hair...I realized that the do was actually kind of cute. (Thats not me in the picture but thats the appearance of my hair in a nut shell Black Hairstyles). My boyfriend walks in the bathroom and says...."That's different." and exits. So that's it...like that's really all he had to say?

Now I know it's no big deal usually when a guy....your guy.... doesn't give you a compliment. But when he knows how much work you put into your hair..washing..semi-blow drying...combing...and the fact that you said this was all new to you! Like you are trying something new out for a change. And he can't even say "Babe..Humm...thats different..curls..I've never seen you with curls before." Even that would have been okay but just "That's different."

I just feel that females put work into how we look and usually how we dress. Even when we don't put in work, we usually look well put together and just cute! Congrats to all my females out there. But I'm just saying...is a compliment that hard to give. Just something nice.....

Sorry just needed to vent real quick..but guys feel free to comment if you have a view on this matter.

Does it Work?

I normally don't speak on relationships so much but it's February...the month of Love!

The interesting thing about relationships is the "what's next" factor. All relationships reach that point... whether both partners are beginning to ask themselves that or merely one. We all want to know.. "Does my relationship have what it takes to turn into a long-term commitment or is this just something to do to pass the time." I've never been one to have a relationship that was "just for fun." I never saw the point in it and I never wanted to just "play relationship" as some people do. (I guess that's why my heart has been broken a few times....I'm hoping the right one has finally come to me) but let me continue.

So when your relationship does reach that point because you do eventually think about the future....questions begin to pop into your head. "Can I deal with how he clips his toes in the bed...Or can I deal with the amount of drool she leaves on the pillow.." Haha the list can just go on. Then deeper questions come into play such as "Do we work well together....will he/she make a good parent...can I live with this person for the rest of my life." In order to help out in this matter, there are hundreds of sites that help people figure out if their current relationship has what it takes to go the mile. I've stumbled onto a webpage 10 Qualities of Great Marriages | hitched: (I know it says marriage but if your serious about your relationship you should eventually want it to go in that direction right; wouldn't you like to check and see if your current relationship posses the top 10 qualities to make it)...

After ready the article some key words stood out to me "Friendship" and "Communication." These qualities are so important to me because once you have a solid friendship with someone, its so easy to talk to them! You feel more comfortable telling them your fears, weakness, and how you truly feel about different situations. I think they go hand in hand myself. Once your relationship has a strong sense of friendship...the communication should come naturally. I mean best friend type of friendship...The kind that you tell everything to!

If you don't feel that my two qualities are that important then check out the site and see which ones you feel are important to you. Or better yet...which 10 qualities does your relationship have.....all or just some....

Final Choice

Well well well....As a divorce is nearly right around the corner, things take a quick and even though its a slight change from the norm...it has everyone turning heads.

I guess after sometime, people either open their eyes and realize what they are about to lose on or they just give it up all together. Life has a way of showing people what it would be like without a person without actually taking them away completely. A sickness that leaves the person bedridden or an accident that leaves the person in a hospital. Why does it take actions such as these for a person to realize that they need to turn things around or they will be all by themselves. Even though I ask the question "Why" I'm still happy that we do have the opportunity to "see" or "experience" life altered if that person where no longer in it. After that we have the opportunity to either change the future for the better or just decided that life is better without that person. I prefer this slight altered lifestyle rather than having the person completely out of my life by the final way...death.

I'm sure that most of you out there would choose the first way because at least you have a option of fixing the situation and making it better.